Personal: Saying Goodbye Never Gets Easier, Some Things Never Change

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By Quentin Choy

July 26, 2021

This is more of a personal post, so if you’re only looking for politics or history, move along.

I left Hawai’i for Los Angeles early this morning to attend my dad’s wedding. The lines at Daniel K. Inouye snaked back pretty far as hundreds of tourists made their way back to the mainland.

At 4:30am, there were far more people hustling and bustling than I had expected. My grandparents helped me to check in my bags and make sure I had everything before checking through security.

The night before, my younger siblings and mom came to spend a few hours with me before I left early in the morning. My brother and I played out favorite game, Age of Empires III together. My youngest brother played Wii Sports Resort, and my sister and I played Exploding Kittens the card game.

Even though it was a simple night, it was a lot of fun. It was the perfect final night before heading back to college. After a week in California, I’m flying back to Colorado to get situated before the school year starts.

Leaving never gets easier no matter how many times you do it.

My family has a tradition to stand just outside of the TSA checkpoint before another friend or family member makes it through. Half of it is probably out of a strong value on family, and the other half is making sure they don’t forget anything.

My grandparents and I prayed for a few minutes for a safe flight, and then it was time to go.

I’ve flown alone several times, leaving my family behind before. I’ve done it six times already going back and forth between Colorado and Hawai’i for college. Despite the number of times I’ve already said goodbye to them, it doesn’t get any easier.

It still hurts to hug them for just a few short seconds before leaving them behind for a few long months. You don’t really appreciate all the little moments and memories you made together until it’s time to say goodbye.

This summer, my family and I made lots of great memories. We went to the beach, visited Pearl Harbor, celebrated the 4th of July, hung out with a good friend, and spent time with my siblings. I even learned how to juggle!

Visiting Pearl Harbor on my last day in Hawai’i, For good posts about World War II in the Pacific, I can’t recommend Pacific Paratrooper’s blog enough!

While my family misses me, it’s harder for me since I’m not just saying bye to one person. They all say bye to one person (me), but it hurts a lot saying bye to each of them individually.

Each time I pass through TSA and head toward the gate, I usually just stand for a bit looking out at the planes. It hurts knowing that I won’t see my family for a bit, but it’s always encouraging to know that I’ll see them in just a few months.

I don’t know how often you all have to travel, but if it’s a lot, I know you can relate to the feeling that saying goodbye never gets easier.

Flying over Los Angeles.
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  1. I think I have fallen in love with your family, especially your grandparents who are likely around my age! What a wonderful thing, to have family who care so much, who you care so much about! Enjoy the wedding and study HARD this term, my friend! You’re going to need all the knowledge you can absorb to make a change in this world, and I think … I really believe … that you will find a way to make the world a little bit better place. Safe travels!

    1. Jill,

      My family is truly the greatest, and I sometimes forget how fortunate I am to have them. Being away is usually the best reminder of how good I really have it in life.

      Thank you for the kind words, and I will study hard to strive for changes that the world needs so badly!

      Thanks for sending kind people and kind words my way.


      1. I see great potential in your blog, Quentin. I remember all too well the first couple of years I was blogging, how sometimes it seemed that I was going nowhere. A fellow blogger, one who at the time have over 50,000 followers, gave me some nuggets of advice and helped me to move forward. If I can help others in the same manner, then I am more than happy to do so! I think you are off to a great start, and I will help you as much as I can, as will some of my readers, I’m sure, for they are good people!

      2. Jill, several of your readers have reached out to me, and I’ve been touched by the kindness they’ve shown to me. Thanks again for sending them my way.


      3. I’m so glad! While I have 4,000+ followers, I have a core of about 50 regular readers and for the most part they are a great group of people! Yours is only the 2nd blog I’ve had the opportunity to help and I really do enjoy doing it! I got a big help when I was first starting out from a blogger who had, at that time, 75,000 followers!!! I don’t think I ever want that many, for I already spend about 12, sometimes 14 hours a day on my blog! One other thing … do you have a Twitter account? If so, I would consider posting your posts on Twitter, too … you never know whose eye they might catch!

      4. Jill, I’ve had a pleasure meeting some of your most devoted readers! They’ve all been so kind to me. I do have a Twitter, but I hate being on Twitter a lot, and don’t have very many followers. I do automatically make post links go to Twitter but don’t spend much time on there.


      5. I’ve said more than once that many of my blogging buddies seem like family to me! And it’s true … I know some about their children, grandchildren, have even emailed with some of their spouses and children! It becomes … a tight knit group … a family in every sense. I don’t blame you about staying off of Twitter … I get angry nearly every time I go there … but, I do get some views on my posts from it. David, Michael, and Ned almost always re-tweet my posts, which helps, too.

      6. Jill,

        Maybe I’ll have to hold my nose and log onto Twitter for 15 minutes every few days just to poke around and post things every now and then.

        On your first comment about bloggers, I hope to grow a sense of family and community as well. That seems like it would be the most rewarding aspect of blogging.

        Good night!

      7. It might be worth a try, but I did find you on Twitter this morning and all your posts are there. Sometimes commenting or re-tweeting other people’s posts can help bring more people to your blog, but in truth, it’s a coin toss and probably not worth the trouble and angst!

      8. I enjoy doing what I can to help you get a good start in the blogosphere! I well remember my own first year of blogging, before a seasoned blogger offered me some advice and really helped me! You’re doing good work here, and I definitely want to see you succeed!

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